Know Your Truth and Believe It

Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought to yourself as being ugly or having a “fat day”?

We all have these days, especially women. This blog is to hopefully boost your self esteem and your personal thought about the image you see staring back at you.

I grew up hearing more negative things about myself than positive, so it’s no surprise when you find out I grew up with low self esteem. Being told I was short, fat, ugly, stupid and that I wouldn’t amount to anything was a normal day in my household. And to think people thought I was this person’s favorite, most prized child. You can just imagine how he treated the rest of the kids.

I grew up thinking all these negative things I heard was truth. And everywhere I looked it was being told to me indirectly too. With the media, magazines, movies, everywhere I looked I saw someone prettier, skinnier, smarter, someone was always accomplishing something I never thought I could.

But you know what? Here’s my truth now….. I have an amazing husband who every morning no matter what tells me I’m beautiful and he loves me before I leave for work. I have friends who admire me for my strength, my willpower to accomplish everything I put my mind to. I have the life that people have told me they wanted. I have accomplished dreams people once told me I could not do, like move across country to study in New York City. I went on an honor semester, picked from 2500 applicants around the world and I was one of the 25 lucky students who got to go. I became a business woman working in a sky scraper when people told me I was stupid for wanting to live in the city and working with all these “uppidy” people. I went to college on an academic scholarship when people told me I’d never go because my family had no money. I did that and even got my Masters after that. All on my own! I’ve built homes for the homeless, I’ve fed the hungry on Thanksgiving, I’ve donated my time at the homeless shelter for animals all while people told me I’m wasting my time, that doing those things won’t do anything for you, why bother? Well because it does something for your soul.

The moral of the story, there will always be people prettier, smarter, skinnier, everything-ier than you. But it’s up to you to believe in yourself and fight for what you want out of life. If you listen to the ne-sayers then you will be exactly what they are saying. You will never accomplish anything. You will become fat because you believe it and even if you aren’t on the outside, you will be the fat, miserable kid on the inside. You will be the one that looks in the mirror and only sees a loser because you let others make you believe you have no worth. When you are worth everything you are willing to work for.

The media will always paint the picture that you are not beautiful unless you are a size two, but guess what, even those size twos think something negative about themselves. They want to be thicker or have a better face or better butt or better something. So just believe in yourself and your own abilities and you will be much happier.

That person who said all those negative things to me while growing up, he is no longer apart of my life. He now lives alone with very few friends and not one of his kids or step kids want anything to do with him. It’s just him and his little dog because of how he treated people for so long. Surround yourself with amazing people and again you will be much happier. Trust me.