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Watching My Boys Together
Brings pure joy to my heart! As some of you might know from my other posts, my older son is autistic, so for him to show interest in his little brother, who I might also add is his half-brother, it’s a huge deal! Honestly, I’m sitting here watching them interact and it is so long overdue! It brings tears to my heart. You see, when we told our older son he was going to have a baby sibling, he showed no interest. Partially because of his autism, but also because the only baby he has been around is his cousin who to be frank is and always has been out…
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The Best Part of My Day
For as long as I can remember I’ve been getting up early, working all day, coming home to clean and cook then bed just to get up and do it all over again. Some days I worked so much I didn’t even cook, I went through a drive through somewhere. I was literally so exhausted I just wanted to sleep when I got home. If I got five hours of sleep, it was a great night! But for the last two months my days couldn’t been any more different. To start, instead of an alarm going off at 3am, I get woken up by the laughter of a toddler around…
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Deciding to get Pregnant
I’ve discussed in an earlier post about my son’s birth, but I haven’t mentioned the journey I took that lead me to that point. Most people don’t know this, but I never wanted to have my own children. I wanted to adopt. I wanted the guarantee factor of having a child that looked like me. Or at least had the same color of skin. You see I grew up being darker than anyone in my family and because of this I felt different. I felt out of place. I felt like I didn’t belong, sometimes. Not that my family ever made me feel this way, they didn’t, but I made…
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We Need to Change Ourselves
You know sometimes you come across situations that you just can’t keep you mouth shut about. I have two situations that was just that! First up, a little girl and her father at the toy store. She was paying for her toys and didn’t have enough money. Her father had the nerve to scold this five year about not having enough. Saying crap like, “you should be ashamed of yourself for not knowing if you had enough before coming up to the register.” This little girl was humiliated and by her own father! Then her older sister came up and said “don’t worry sissy, I have some extra!” And handed…
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Hardest Decision of My Life: Becoming a SAHM
Making the decision to become a stay at home mom has been the hardest, but easiest decision of my life thus far. I always knew I didn’t want my children being raised by strangers, but I also knew I didn’t get multiple degrees to stay at home. So what do you do when your baby stops eating and sleeping at daycare? You write your resignation letter. I have been with my job for going on five and a half years. I have a management team that supports and cares about their employees and a working family that notice when you are out. I have a great shift where I get…
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Keys for Success…in your Marriage
What’s the key to a successful marriage? I’ve wondered about this for almost as long as I’ve been alive. And since I’ve been married for three years now finding the answer to this million dollar question is even more important. And here’s what I’ve realized thus far. There is no simple answer to this question. My entire life I’ve had one example of a successful marriage, my grandparents. As of last month they have been married 60 years, raised four kids, my grandfather retired from the military and then did night school in order to start a new career as an Electrician, all while my grandmother raised their four kids…
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Know Your Truth and Believe It
Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought to yourself as being ugly or having a “fat day”? We all have these days, especially women. This blog is to hopefully boost your self esteem and your personal thought about the image you see staring back at you. I grew up hearing more negative things about myself than positive, so it’s no surprise when you find out I grew up with low self esteem. Being told I was short, fat, ugly, stupid and that I wouldn’t amount to anything was a normal day in my household. And to think people thought I was this person’s favorite, most prized child. You…
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We Need to Do Better
I read something today that just broke my heart. A woman referred to her two clients as “very plus size.” She wanted tips on how to photograph them like it’s any different than photographing a skinny woman! And the worst part is the shoot she’s doing is for two maternity shoots. This breaks my heart on so many levels. But mostly because as a plus size woman myself who just had a baby and maternity pictures done, I know first hand the insecurities that go along with your changing body. My biggest insecurity was that no one would even know I was pregnant, but instead think I just put on…
