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The Difference a Pregnancy Can Make
I look down at my growing body and I definitely don’t feel beautiful or gorgeous or even pretty for that matter. I look straight down and see a belly that protrudes way past my solid double D’s. And I see stretch marks all over! Wanna see my feet? I haven’t in at least four months! My face is chubby and oily, they call it “glowing,” but I call it gross! It’s never been this big or this oily! I look at the number on the scale and see a number higher than I’ve ever seen before and I just want to cry! I try on clothes in my closet and…
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The Most Important Things to Know Before Marriage
You ever wonder why the divorce rate is so high nowadays compared to older generations? You see it all the time people who you think are the perfect couple end up making the announcement they are getting a divorce. Or the opposite, people who you honestly think are so different that they won’t last a year last fifty years! I’ve thought about it a lot since I’ve gotten married and even more so before I got married. It’s crazy really, there’s no rhyme or reason for why some get divorced while others stay together, but I think I’ve figured out some contributing factors to why this is happening by the…
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Love At Any Age
I have seen some major heartache in my life but I have also witnessed some even more heartache and nasty breakup from the older generations in my family. And the one thing I have learned from seeing and experiencing it myself is this… There is no right age to find love! And I don’t mean this “short lived” love, I mean true love! Take for instance my uncle, he has been married before, he has had different girlfriends over the years, but 25 years ago he met the one! My Aunt Theresa. And the love you see them share is something I’ve never seen before; growing up was gross to…
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Three Types of Love
Three Loves I saw a post the other day that got me thinking. This post was about the three loves a person has in the course of their life. And this post brought light to the topic of love. So, I thought I’d share my take on the topic. So, to start let me explain the three different types of loves. The first love is the love that most often happens when you are young and you don’t think of it as love and you grow apart or break ties over something silly, but when you get older and look back on it, you realize it was love. The second…
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Don’t See Color?
I’ve heard this phrase so much lately, “I don’t see color.” But isn’t that the problem! You need to see color in order to see what is going on is wrong! Police brutality against those of color is wrong, and to be honest if you don’t see color how can you honestly say you are against it or not? Just by reading the news you see the numbers are astounding when it comes to how many people are killed by the men and women that are there to protect us. It’s scary really! And you don’t see color?! To me that statement is like saying you are turning a blind…
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I Fear For My Family During These Times
I’m married to a black man and I have black kids and every day I fear for their lives. Every day we hear another story of another black man being brutalized or murdered by a police officer. And every day I fear for my family. My son is sixteen and wears hoodies like Trayvon Martin. My husband is a hardworking, every day, normal black man who sometimes drives too fast, but is always the one at our store late at night. Both I worry about on a regular basis. I worry that my son will get accused of doing something he would never do because he matches a description of…
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Mom Guilt
Lately I’ve been hearing a lot of ladies talk about mom guilt and some have asked me if I’ve ever experienced it. And here’s the truth, yes I have experienced mom guilt. But first, what is mom guilt? Mom guilt is feeling guilty for doing something or not doing something when it comes to your children. For example, being a working mom, leaving your child every day in the care of someone else while you work. Or not working and being home with your baby but feeling like he’s not getting the educational aspect or social interactions he’d be getting if he was at daycare. I’ve felt both! Every day…
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Missing Church
We haven’t been to church in over eight weeks because our pastor called an audible before the virus got too bad. He pulled all the elders together and they decided it was best for our church family to not gather on Wednesdays to start then added in Sunday services to it. And then the governor put the order in place to not have any gatherings bigger than 250. And it didn’t bother me at first. Until it did. And today it hit me hard. I miss church. I miss coming together with likeminded people hearing God’s word. Hearing the message from our Pastor every Sunday. I miss taking my son…
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The One My Soul Loves
You see a man always working and having no time for his family.I see the most amazing hard-working man who always puts his family first. Working full time during the day while running a business full time during the night. You see a man who never has time to hang out with friends.I see a man who needs to catch up on his sleep when he gets some free time because a man can only run on four hours a night sleep for only so long before his body starts shutting down on him. You see a man that is antisocial and thinks he’s better than you.I see a man…
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Things I’ve learned from 2019
Every new year I like to reminisce on the year that just ended and with that reminiscing, I try to take the lessons from the previous year and make some changes for the upcoming year. And every year I like to have a theme set for the upcoming year. This theme is more like a word or motto to live by. In the years past it was happiness, strength, and love, but this year after these five big lessons I have learned from 2019, my “motto” for 2020 is “self-care,” because the one thing I learned from 2019, you have to put yourself first because at the end of the…
